Are you a victim? Or a victor?
The typical “big boned argument” “its not my fault, its my crappy metabolism”, guess what? You are not alone, millions of people have that problem, myself included. I still remember years in the past, my friends coming into high-school in the morning talking about all they ate for breakfast that day. “what’d you have?” one would ask, I legitimately remember one of my friends saying “6 pancakes with whipped cream and brown sugar”. The kid who was skinny, who even though he ate like that never got big like I did. It wasn’t fair, it sucked. I spent to much of my life thinking this way, “its not fair, its not right, I’m going to eat what I want, no one can get mad at me for being big, im the victim here. My metabolism sucks compared to them I was dealt a crappy hand Im going to be big forever and there is nothing I can do to change that. Might as well just accept it”. Well guess what? That doesn’t have to be the way it is.
Are you just going to resign yourself to be miserable for the rest of your life because someone else has a leg up on you? Those people went on biggest loser because they wanted to change their life. Of course they wanted to win money but there are a million different ways and shows they could have tried to get on to do that. They didn’t want to be big anymore they didn’t want to be out of shape anymore. Then this article comes out and basically tells the people, not that they need to change some things because of this science we are presenting, no that they are doomed and its not their fault and they are victims. It makes me extremely angry to be honest, it to me comes in the same breath as doctors who tell people they will never walk again, or they will never snowboard again, or they will never do this or that or anything again. “its not your fault, you are the victim and there is nothing you can do to change it”
Here is where the title comes in, you can either choose to be a victim or a victor. I will tell you that after reading that article I tried to search for a work to oppose “victim”. All I could really come across was perpetrator and the like, and that wasn’t the type of opposite I was looking for. Then it hit me, take a look at those two words and you will learn all you need to know about them. What is a victim? It ends in “I’m” a victim is someone who chooses to be identified as something “I am this, or I am that”, “I have a crappy metabolism” “I cant find the time to prepare my food” “Im fat and out of shape and I’m always going to be out of shape”. If you believe yourself the victim, you are cooked. As you have seen on many TV shows and movies what changes when someone does not want to be regarded as a victim? When they choose not to be, they show everyone, “Yea something crappy happened to me, yea I got dealt a crappy hand, but I refuse to be identified as a victim.
I am strong I will not let myself be a victim”. This is where the second word comes in, victor, what does that end in? “or” it’s a choice, they made a choice to not be identified as a victim, they made a choice to change something rather than falling back on being miserable because “hey there is nothing I can do about it”. There is always a choice, yes your road may be harder than others, yes some people will find it easier than you. If you regard yourself as a victim, that is what you will always be and things will not get better. However if you make a choice, a real choice to change something to actively fight that weakness, you get to look that piece of yourself in the mirror that says “you don’t have it, your doomed, just give up” and tell it “I am strong, I am better, I will be better, and you wont weigh me down”. In doing so trading that title of “Victim” for “Victor” and isn’t that what we all really want? Make it happen!
- Coach Adam
